Although it is true that psychotherapy sometimes encourages the client to explore early experiences, including material surrounding one's parents, this process is often misrepresented. The goal is not to simply recall various "mistakes" made by the parents in early childhood, nor is it to indulge in self-righteous blaming and adopting the role of the "victim." Rather, the client explores how early experiences shaped certain adult habits of thinking, feeling and doing so that she can consciously and intentionally alter these unwanted habits. Regardless of the role of the parents early on, it is entirely up to the client to correct any developmental conflicts in the Here and Now. The therapist helps the client recognize, validate and re-examine early feelings without getting lost in them. The goal is actually to become less "stuck" in one's past so that you are increasingly present in the immediate, moment-to-moment flow of adult life. To this end, psychotherapy is not about simply learning a new language, learning news ways to describe and indulge in one's past. Rather, it is about moving beyond past conflicts and wounds, taking personal, adult responsibility for one's own happiness and daily experience.