Many individuals struggle to find or sustain their ideal romantic relationship. Clients are often frustrated with dating, feeling that certain unwanted patterns play out over and over again, seemingly outside of their control. The therapy process can help "update" dating patterns, bringing to light the various ways in which the client tends to defeat him or herself by choosing the wrong partners, and illuminating ways in which the individual may unconsciously push away more healthy partners.

Oftentimes, clients play out unrecognized family patterns when dating. They may inadvertently be drawn to certain negative characteristics that trigger "unfinished business" with their parents or siblings. The therapist helps the client to become more aware of such hidden motivations when dating.

The counselor may work with the individual very directly, coaching him or her to maximize online dating, or to meet suitable dates through the local scene. The therapist helps the client resolve any sexual issues or fears of intimacy that may be sabotaging the client's search for a satisfying relationship. At times, social anxiety may present a temporary obstacle to meeting new people.